“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” – Maya Angelou
Valentine’s Day is a day for us all to stop and celebrate love in all of its forms. This year at DDA we wanted to highlight the long-lasting love that has developed in two of our long-term clients, and to spread the message that people of all walks of life want the same thing – to love and be loved.
Doug and Tracy have been with DDA for decades and have been together for an incredible 31 years. A few days before Valentine’s Day, we sat down with Doug and Tracy to ask them how they keep it going after all these years (and maybe get some helpful hints!). Before the interview even started, Tracy exclaimed to Doug that she bought him a Valentine’s present. Sadly for Doug, he had to wait to receive it. The pair sat happily on the couch, Doug’s arm draped across Tracy’s shoulders.
Like many successful relationships, Doug and Tracy’s time together began with an introduction.
“Before I met Tracy I met a lady called Tanya, she got Tracy and me together,” says Doug.
“I’m in the Joy Fellowship church choir,” adds Tracy. “And that’s where we met.”
The pair goes to church every Sunday together and finds a common interest in the activities there. Another activity they like to do together is Bollywood Dancing joining other DDA clients for practices and performances at Bell Centre for the Performing Arts. The pair can’t spend as much time together right now as Tracy needs eye surgery, but afterward they hope to get back into their regular dating schedule, seeing each other two or three times a week.
“I love her very much and we chat on the phone a lot. Before church, we like to go out to a restaurant a lot,” adds Doug.
When it really comes down to it, however, 31 years is a long time for a relationship, any relationship regardless of cognitive or physical limitations. They both have an idea why they’ve lasted so long.
“He’s a real gentleman. He kind and sweet and a real nice guy. He helps me across the street,” asserts Tracy. “I love him and I like being around him all the time.”
Doug’s secret to longevity is a subtle reminder that anyone can learn from.
“For me, it’s trust and honesty.”
Doug and Tracy would like to wish everyone Happy Valentine’s Day!